Asking for Nets: 6 Timeless Truths from Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People
We can work the system we're in based on the way people are, or we can defy it and minimize our results.
Season 7, Episode 13 · Asking for Nets - 6 Timeless Truths from Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People
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The story behind the idea
We can work the system we're in based on the way people are, or we can defy it and minimize our results. This third way incorporates them into it so precisely and initially that it usually brings exactly what you want it and sometimes even much, much more. Instead of just telling you the three, I want to come up with an example here, kind of a nerdy one.
What stands out
Even people who love you get annoyed by the person who's always speaking only in terms of their needs. I was floundering along in this pointless game with very few nets, and I changed the strategy a bit more. This isn't one of our three main points, but it starts to get to it.
Why it matters
It would be better at least if he learned to say, Ella, could you go get me a fork? She may say no because she's sitting at the table and he's sitting at the table and he could get up just as easily. At least he's acknowledging her by name, putting her name first, Ella, and asking her in a question form, not demanding if she can do something for him.
A faithful way forward
They feel value or valued or benefited, and you receive the thing that's important to you.
Put it into practice
There should be some optimism or welcoming facial expressions at least. Number three, remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
Take the idea with you.
- 01What idea from this study most needs my attention right now?
- 02Where does this challenge the way I am currently thinking or living?
- 03What is one faithful step I can take this week?
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